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**Posted by HopelessRomantic** December 27, 2022 9:56 am

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**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** December 27, 2022 1:53 pm

As I was reading your account I was thinking to myself "oh yip been there...right yip me too"

Why should you trust a man who has proven he's not honest? How many times does he have to disappoint you?
Go ask somebody you trust for a listening ear, family? Because once we verbalise what we're going through we hear it with different ears I think.
You're doing everything right as far as emotions go..ie; realising the no love left, the disgust vs begging thing (that's so hurtful right?). All this will make you stronger. When you make the switch from "this will never end" to "I know I can't stay here" Edited to Add even though you have to stay for now your mind will kick into survival gear.

Warm hugs and strengthening vibes probably from across an ocean but you know they're genuine ☺️

Elle

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**Posted by Rob** December 27, 2022 4:29 pm

HopelessRomantic,

We should be able to have romance..it should not have to hopeless.

I feel for you. It's the horribleness of TGT,/trans etc.
The shatter our trust sure (ie I cheated on you) but then that is not enough
.they have to put that final nail in coffin ..im gay, trans, green alien, thus telling us that they have a deep dark secret that we were not worth knowing..it says a lot about who they are and how they feel about us.

I have no answers to endure and live with distrust other than to seek medical help if the anxiety and trauma starts affecting your work, life, taking care of the kids etc.. I used my kids as motivation as they deserved a sane functioning dad..

**Posted by OutofHisCloset** December 27, 2022 10:26 pm

It is not uncommon for a man who is a cross dresser (transwoman wannabe) to cycle through periods of indulging the urge and then renouncing the urge. It's also not uncommon for the non-straight spouse who to draw back when told the spouse wants a divorce. Sean writes about this phenomenon as a "honeymoon" period when the non-straight spouse acts to preserve the benefits of the marriage. You are right to suspect that your husband's act as "perfect husband' is just that: an act.