I thought about this..why my GX married me etc. She had this insane sense of entitlement.  She was entitled to kids and the benefits of being married to me but did not think I was entitled to faithfulness and a normal marriage.

Best to get far away from these entitled people.

Lily,
    "...my ex was resentful - he would say I never asked to be born like that meant we owed him."

  This is what my ex thought, I'm sure.  He resented the fact that he was a man when he wanted to be a woman, and he resented me for "getting to be" the female he wanted to be, and, because he had been "cheated" out of what he wanted to be, he felt entitled to use me and act in whatever way made him feel better. He felt entitled to creep on my femaleness and my female sexual response so that he could fantasize about being a woman, but he also felt entitled to discourage any show of femininity in me because if he couldn't have it then neither could I.  He felt entitled to deprive me of the information I needed to interpret what was happening in our marriage.  Above all, he felt entitled to keep all this to himself, and to imply that the problems in our marriage, many of which no doubt arose from his secret dissatisfaction with himself, were my fault.  

Everytime I see a news heading lead with or containing the words "gay conversion therapy" I simply dismiss it and move on. I'm often interested in people to read articles about the struggles in their lives but this topic just makes me fucking angry

Elle

lily wrote:

But lhe utter disregard for the straights they marry while trying to be straight is so entrenched it is shocking.  what gives them the right to so disregard the needs and feelings of someone else, particularly when they are professing to love them.

 

You pretty much nailed this.  Yes. 

Conversion therapy is clearly about pleasing the society, not the individual.  And so the cost of individual unhappiness and trauma is just expected to be borne by the converted homosexual, but the poor undeserving straight partner who gets caught up in this ickiness is yet another casualty that is not even considered.  But again, this is about pleasing society not the person.  Individuals are forced to bear the terrible cost of appearing normal to the outside world.

The question is why?  What is the point?

Abby wrote:

Men who admit to being attracted to men are actually encouraged to marry women to straighten themselves out. Plain women are recommended because they will be grateful to have a husband.

Man, that hits a little too close to home. My crossdresser husband said something similar to me when we were young. Paraphrasing here, but he basically said that men don’t want to marry attractive women/women that they want to sleep with because they’re hardwired to think of them as cum-dumpsters/only good for one thing... that they instead want to marry the “nice” girl (Aka, the less than attractive girl who makes up for it with her personality) because she’ll be a safer bet and make a better wife/try harder.  (Such a flattering thing to hear from your future husband...)