OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / My husband turned my life upside down

**Posted by Marianne** January 4, 2022 3:10 am

Soaplife: I never said anything about ADHD. Autism is something different. He would like to have an official diagnosis, we tried to find some options, but in our country it is only possible to diagnose autism in children. Adults are simply left to cope with it any way they can. It's sad.
I've met several people with NPD, I know the symptoms and (as much as my non-professional opinion is worth) this is not it, either.
I'm not so sure about BPD, but the only matching symptom seems to be the distorted sense of self.
Past trauma is the thing. He has a lots and lots of it.
I agree these things are not any kind of excuse.

**Posted by Soaplife** January 4, 2022 11:43 pm

Marianne my apologies for my mistake, I'm sorry if I upset you.

**Posted by Marianne** January 5, 2022 5:25 am

It's all right, Soaplife. I was not upset, just confused at the sudden change of topic

**Posted by awholenewworld** January 10, 2022 10:46 am

I’m so sorry that it’s so hard. That is a lot of different stages to go through. Sounds like there could be away to make it work since you still care about each other but will probably need a lot of therapy to adjust <3 hugs to you

**Posted by Marianne** January 11, 2022 3:52 pm

awholenewworld: Thank you for your kind words. If only I could find some way how to make it work!
Yes, we still care about each other. But we also managed to hurt each other very seriously during last year.
And I have to admit that I cringe when I see him in female clothes. I don't know if that is something I can adjust to.