OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Do you feel like a victim?

**Posted by walkbymyself** December 10, 2021 11:50 am

I remember asking my GXH at one point if he really believed he could keep it a secret from me forever (he did not want to divorce and didn't seem to grasp the seriousness of the situation at any point). He responded "I thought it would all come out after I was dead."

It would have hurt less if he'd just answered "yes".

**Posted by Momoftwo** December 10, 2021 11:51 am

Gloria wrote:
So sorry that you are in this situation. I am also Catholic. Only God knows where your husband is now but we all know that the Lord does not like ugly. I hope he gets what he deserves .

I honestly do not appreciate your remark. I loved my husband even though he was not the best husband he was a good father and I don't think your saying hope he gets what he deserves comes from hate that you must be feeling in your situation. I am choosing love over hate and hope and pray my husband is in a good place.

**Posted by Momoftwo** December 10, 2021 11:55 am

Gloria wrote:
So sorry that you are in this situation. I am also Catholic. Only God knows where your husband is now but we all know that the Lord does not like ugly. I hope he gets what he deserves .

Gloria I am not choosing hate as you seem to be. I don't know what your situation is but I loved my husband despite his faults, he was a good father and yes I feel betrayed but I am hoping and praying he is in a good place and at peace.

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** December 10, 2021 12:38 pm

Momoftwo wrote:
.....I honestly do not appreciate your remark......

Mo2....
Some of us obviously come from harsher backgrounds that dictate how we see everybody else. I have learned to look past her comments and not take them to heart

Elle

**Posted by Gloria** December 10, 2021 1:03 pm

I did not mean to offend anyone with my remark. I came from a very pampered background. It is true though, that the Lord does not like ugly.

**Posted by Gloria** December 10, 2021 1:16 pm

I feel no hate in my situation. I am happily married and not to the homosexual that I broke up with.

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** December 10, 2021 2:13 pm

Gloria wrote:
I did not mean to offend anyone with my remark. I came from a very pampered background. It is true though, that the Lord does not like ugly.

One of the best lessons to learn in this modern world of communication via the internet is to reread the words before we press send

**Posted by Momoftwo** December 10, 2021 3:01 pm

Gloria wrote:
I feel no hate in my situation. I am happily married and not to the homosexual that I broke up with.

Yet you chose to comment on my message, so you may be happily married but yet you chose to say mean hateful comment about my husband who you did not know. I posted only because I was sad and upset that my marriage of so many years was not what I would have hoped and yet you have to post hate saying hope he gets what he deserved. It hurt to read this and I was not wanting negative feedback, I was just trying to deal with the fact I lived a life I would not have chose but I would never, ever feel hatred for a man I lived with for 34 years who obviously could not accept his sexuality. Gloria, peace be with you and your new marriage.

**Posted by Momoftwo** December 10, 2021 3:07 pm

Gloria wrote:
I did not mean to offend anyone with my remark. I came from a very pampered background. It is true though, that the Lord does not like ugly.

why you would choose to comment and use excuse of a pampered background. YOU did not know my husband and yes I chose to relay how I felt sad and betrayed but to say I hope he gets what he deserves. It was hate that motivated that remark and I have no hatred for my spouse, I feel bad he did not get the opportunity to live the life he wanted. I knew in my heart he was not happy and only wish he could have felt comfortable in living the life he wanted.
I hope you can appreciate that Gloria.

**Posted by Momoftwo** December 10, 2021 3:13 pm

Gloria wrote:
I did not mean to offend anyone with my remark. I came from a very pampered background. It is true though, that the Lord does not like ugly.

Pampered background, Lord does not like ugly.
You said it all !