MJM017 wrote:

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Interesting, the 2nd link brings up all these emotions for me about the silence that surrounds my partners sexuality and how I know if *I* bring it up I'll fall back into the horrible vortex of dishonesty that I was in a few years ago. I really don't know if it's better to stay silent and slowly work on me....or get it out in the open and possibly have it all blow up in my face.
For me personally, I feel my first move should be after I've given my lawyer a copy of our joint bank statement and when I do that there should be no going back. It scares me at the moment


 

OOHC,

Thank you so much for posting these links. They were so spot on for me. They just don't understand the debris field of their actions. Now my kids are from a broken home; but as Upside says, "It's better to be from a broken home than to live in one." My GIDSTBX and I have had the conversation over the years of how both of us feel we would rather die than to be (accidentally) responsible for taking another person's life, as in a car  accident. Was it OK to take 22 years of my life so he could hide, have me bear his children and have a sham marriage? Where is the empathy? Narcissism!  I could have found true, healthy love.

One day at a time. One moment at a time. One baby step after another. I'm crawling out of the hole towards the light. Onward and upward!!!