OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Why Do Gay Men Remarry Women?

**Posted by Baffled** May 23, 2021 4:20 am

I divorced my gay husband after 27 years of marriage. During the divorce process, he claimed to have a religious “return to God” and then promptly married another woman who is significantly younger than him. He is now super religious (or is he?). If he was super religious he would know the view of an adulterous person remarrying. Why do gay men do this?

**Posted by lily** May 23, 2021 1:37 pm

they're like hermit crabs going from one shell to another.

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** May 23, 2021 1:39 pm

Baffled wrote:
I divorced my gay husband after 27 years of marriage. . (he) then promptly married another woman who is significantly younger than him. ... Why do gay men do this?

Who knows why they do it. Unwilling to express their truth.... Scared of society's disrespect and non-acceptance.....I mean some LGBTQs come out and show themselves, some never will.

Once you made your decision to leave it shouldn't matter what he does, who he pretends to be.... But I would think after living much of your life with somebody... you might feel a duty of care, however misplaced/unnecessary, to warn the young woman he's now using as his beard

Elle

**Posted by TangledOil** May 23, 2021 2:39 pm

I’ve heard of a couple situations where women thought their husbands were gay and divorced. Turned out those men were bi and subsequently married other women. I know a man who was married for decades to a women, divorced and dated men for awhile openly, then married another women.

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** May 23, 2021 2:48 pm

TangledOil wrote:
I’ve heard of a couple situations where women thought their husbands were gay and divorced. Turned out those men were bi and subsequently married other women. I know a man who was married for decades to a women, divorced and dated men for awhile openly, then married another women.

Bi or gay... Everyone of the men... whose straight partner finds the Forum... has been dishonest to some degree. That is what they do.

Suck a cock or fuck a cock... These men shouldn't be trusted

Elle

**Posted by TangledOil** May 23, 2021 3:03 pm

Eh, everyones story is different. I don’t hold it against my husband that it took him decades to figure himself out. His history of childhood sexual abuse convoluted things.

**Posted by TangledOil** May 23, 2021 4:33 pm

MJM,

Gosh, I’m so, so sorry. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through.

I suspected he wasn’t quite straight within the first couple months of knowing him. If you’re okay with it, I’d be more comfortable giving you details via a private message.

Tangled

**Posted by Gloria** May 24, 2021 7:06 am

Baffled, I assume that he married another woman for a cover. Gayness cannot be "cured" and religion cannot help. I am so shocked that gay men are still passing as straight to marry woman or enter into relationships. You may want to tell his new wife. I wish that there was a law against it but gays and lesbians still do it to straight people.

**Posted by Julian_Stone** May 24, 2021 10:27 pm

MJM017 wrote:
Fraud: An annulment on grounds of fraud can only be filed by the person who was deceived.

This should definitely be an option in every state. It's infuriating to read stories of people who were deceived by their spouses...then were penalized BIG TIME for ending the marriage. It's not fair at all.

Last edited by Julian_Stone (May 24, 2021 10:27 pm)