OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Advice for young person?

**Posted by MillennialMess** February 11, 2021 8:48 pm

I can’t figure out how to do this quote feature yet (aren’t millennials supposed to be good at this stuff lol)

But TTSP- that sounds so familiar about your husband going out of his way to get attention/validation. My husband was that way with a lot of things. He has a “salesman” personality and he is very good at sales I’ll give him that....but constantly had to be the funniest guy in the room, or doing the craziest thing , just wanted everyone to love him

Makes me wonder if he needs all that praise because he’s so unhappy with himself deep down and now I know why

**Posted by Blue Bear** February 13, 2021 2:11 pm

[url=profile.php?id=3361]MillennialMess[/url]: Funny that you mention that your husband has bo be the funnies guy in the room or doing the craziest thing. My lesbian ex-wife is that way, too. She had to be throwing the biggest party, the best at this or that, ugh. I could go on.

I think these in-denial partners are often profoundly insecure people. They married straight people because they were insecure about their true sexual identities, and it's unsurprising to see that insecurity manifest itself in other behaviors.

You asked for advice, so I'll give it to you. GET OUT. The path to a happy life does not run through a deceptive, insecure person who is not attracted to you. Almost any path is better than that.