OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / I feel like an idiot today, about my choice 29 years ago...

**Posted by Beijoux** January 19, 2021 7:52 pm

thank you Longwayhome...everything sometimes as clear as mud...

**Posted by lily** January 19, 2021 7:53 pm

yes me too - sorry for your loss.

Just want to add, if there is any sort of inheritance it might be wise to keep it separate.

**Posted by Beijoux** January 19, 2021 7:55 pm

Thank you Lily, No inheritance, dad had a second wife...

**Posted by TangledOil** January 19, 2021 8:55 pm

I’m so sorry to hear of your father’s passing.

The straight woman who knowingly married a gay man is YazPistachio. There’s also interesting research on straight women married to gay identified man. Link below...

https://lib.dr.iastate.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=4471&context=etd

Last edited by TangledOil (January 19, 2021 8:56 pm)

**Posted by Beijoux** January 19, 2021 9:03 pm

Thank you so much TangleOil. Will also follow up on the link and YazPistachio.

**Posted by Daryl** January 20, 2021 12:10 am

My sympathies on your loss.

**Posted by Beijoux** January 20, 2021 12:51 am

Thank you Daryl...my life is a mess at the moment. Thank God that I am not at work yet...back to teaching in a week and a bit....

**Posted by SusanneH** January 20, 2021 12:22 pm

Beijoux,

I am SO sorry to hear of the passing of your father. That’s hard on any day, and during this really hard time, i know it’s got to be messing with your head.

I don’t know if you’re religious. I am, and when my loved ones pass, I am comforted by the knowledge that they are home with God. That’s what got me through the passing of my first husband. For what it’s worth.

((((HUGS))))

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** January 20, 2021 3:16 pm

Beijoux wrote:
...... My dad passed away 2 days ago.........

I'm sorry for your loss Beijoux....were you close to your Dad

Elle

**Posted by Beijoux** January 21, 2021 1:58 am

Thank you SusanneH and Ellexoh. 'they are home with God'. For sure I believe that... yes, I was very close to my dad, but never shared with him, about my husband. That would have been a very low point for him...