OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / "Six proven signs your spouse isn't straight"

**Posted by Julian_Stone** December 5, 2020 1:04 am

A little light-hearted(ish) content for those who are in a place where they can kind of laugh about how much it sucks to discover your partner is not so straight after all.

I came across this blog a few weeks post D-day... still floating in a fog...and suddenly 15 pounds lighter (probably from all of my crying!) I needed the laugh...and this straight wife delivered.

https://www.thestraightwife.com/home/2017/5/30/the-six-sense-six-signs-your-spouse-isnt-straight

**Posted by Dutchman** December 5, 2020 6:55 am

I did the check on myself but fear I don't pass that well.

They light up around the same sex.

When my wife want's me to go shopping with her, I'm haplessly dragging along. But I totally light up when I meet friends who ask me to go to the pub with them, while my wife continues shopping.

Their porn habits are questionable.
My hard and fast (excuse the pun) rules on this are if you're always watching non-hetero porn you're probably non-hetero.

I must confess I actually prefer non-hetero porn.
(...cause I don't like some dude spoiling the view).

They hide things from you.
Like a hidden social account.

I've hidden my twitter account so well, even I myself don't know it anymore.

**Posted by Julian_Stone** December 6, 2020 2:04 pm

Dutchman wrote:
Their porn habits are questionable.
My hard and fast (excuse the pun) rules on this are if you're always watching non-hetero porn you're probably non-hetero.

I must confess I actually prefer non-hetero porn.
(...cause I don't like some dude spoiling the view).

That is funny...I suppose that puts you in the "super straight" category!
None of the signs on this list really applied for me...I'm sure #3 was at play (and possibly #5), but my husband is a smart, tech-savy guy...so no doubt he would use a private browser for these things. I didn't really have the gut feeling...I've always considered myself a highly intuitive person, so it concerns me in a way that I didn't suspect he's not straight...In fact, I was completely shocked (still am, really!)

**Posted by SusanneH** December 6, 2020 3:12 pm

I didn’t think about it until Julian answered, but I did very well. I’m VErY straight!

I don’t think twice about women when I see them.

I don’t watch porn (except, I admit I did watch it to find how to give my husband good oral sex since I didn’t know how as i got married to my first husband right out of high school and only had ‘high school’ sex. 😉).

So, I guess that means I don’t watch non-hetero porn 🥴.

I have nothing to hide 🙄. Due to being ill, I am at home all the time. I’m on the computer, but just on this site and others like it, doing email, shopping Amazon and other simple stuff. I’m an open book.

In other words, I’m boring 😂.

**Posted by Dutchman** December 6, 2020 4:04 pm

Julian Stone wrote:
That is funny...I suppose that puts you in the "super straight" category!

Well, just straight is already okay for me.
For I suspect many (most?) straight men can appreciate lesbian porn. Actually most of this genre is produced for straight men as it's intended audience.

Though my previous post was of course tongue in cheek, it made me think that lesbian porn can be used as a sort of a "gay test".
I suppose generally speaking gay men don't like watching "lesbian action" near as much as straight men would.
(personal preferences will be different, so it's not fail safe or something).

Last edited by Dutchman (December 6, 2020 4:06 pm)

**Posted by TangledOil** December 6, 2020 4:27 pm

My husband meets one of those six... he’s always very occasionally watched gay porn (along with straight porn). I’ve watched it with him since the beginning 30 years ago. 🤷🏼‍♀️

**Posted by Julian_Stone** December 6, 2020 6:23 pm

Dutchman wrote:
Julian Stone wrote:
That is funny...I suppose that puts you in the "super straight" category!
For I suspect many (most?) straight men can appreciate lesbian porn. Actually most of this genre is produced for straight men as it's intended audience.

Though my previous post was of course tongue in cheek, it made me think that lesbian porn can be used as a sort of a "gay test".
I suppose generally speaking gay men don't like watching "lesbian action" near as much as straight men would.
(personal preferences will be different, so it's not fail safe or something).

Yes...that definitely makes sense. I've heard from gay friends that when they watched hetero porn when they were younger, they focused on the men.

By that measure, as I woman, I suppose I should be into gay porn....but I do not find anal sex (or porn guys) particularly sexy.

**Posted by Dutchman** December 7, 2020 12:08 pm

Indeed, gay porn won't work as a "lesbian test" because it's not appealing to most straight women as well. So that test would result in a lot of "false positives".
For most women it's not just the optical/physical but the (fictional) emotional/relational aspects that are an important part of the turn on.
That's absent in most straight porn and (even more so?) in gay porn, where it's like: skip the emotional distractions and start "the real" action asap...

**Posted by SusanneH** December 7, 2020 2:47 pm

I had forgotten, but when I found out about my husband’s craving for porn, ( straight, gay and lesbian ), I checked it out.
First, it was disgusting to me to begin with.

Second, I actually lost physical interest for a short time after seeing so much sex without emotions that it totally turned me off. I’m more interested in sex if it includes emotional and relational aspects, as Dutchman said. To me, it’s as much emotional as it is physical. I’m sure that’s why it doesn’t appeal to me.

**Posted by Julian_Stone** December 7, 2020 10:23 pm

I'm not a big fan of porn in general...Sometimes the storylines (when they exist at all) are pretty comical, though! I do wonder if porn is the reason so many men are really bad at sex ...Sex with an emotional connection is 1,000X better...which is one (of many) reasons I would never entertain an "open marriage" policy. I would definitely fall for my "side piece" because I'd be ultra selective when casting my reel. ;)