MJM017 wrote:

...............Your husband does not get to define fidelity for you.....................

 

As wary as I am of " people who ask questions about their secrets, loves & problems in (online) magazines and  articles " there will almost always be a Short, Sharp, Consise quote or two that I add to my stock of memorable phrases

Elle
 

This post was interesting for me as well.  It was a good reminder of something that is easy to forget. 

Without having going through a situation like this, it's so hard to understand how complicated the emotional ties are between a straight spouse and the LGBT spouse.  

Sometimes I read an article like that and my gut reaction is like "how could you now know he's gay?  Why are you even questioning this?  Why haven't you already filed for divorce?".   I'm sure this is how 99% of society reacts when they read this.   But then I remember I'm a straight spouse too and I remember how complicated it was when I was in the relationship.  I remember all of the history that led me to that point.  I remember all of circumstances in my life that make it hard make a quick decision.  I remember my heart thinking one way and my head thinking the other.  I remember rejecting what people would think is obvious because I just didn't want to let go of my dreams. 


It's good to remember how complicated this is for our newbies.  
I wish I could find a way to teach the rest of the world what it's like for us.