Thinking my long term relationship with someone I thought was marriage material is an absolute sham.
I'm going to try and be as brief as possible and just outline my d-days.
1. Dec 2017 Found emotional cheating with an old childhood friend (female) His own mother was rooting him on to leave me for her. Still don't believe that it wasn't physical.
2. Oct 2017 Sending dick picks/jack off videos to some girl out of state. This is listed 2nd because I found this out after #1
3. June 2018 Actual sex (at my house)with random girl he met at bar while I was on a work trip
---I break up with him. 2 months pass we get back together. He seemed remorseful. I was wrong.
4. Nov 2018 Found him talking to a TIM (trans identified male) on snapchat. The tim was sending super gross inappropriate sex videos, and he was telling the tim he wanted to be with them in a relationship. He wasn't even saying anything sexual unless it was deleted. Very confusing.
----I break up with him again because this is all too much. He comes back crying saying he's suicidal and he got raped in college blackout drunk by a gay man. That's what made him talk to a trans and hes confused and has no idea why
#5 Jan 2019 My 13 y.o DAUGHTER of all people tell me that my ex-husband's (my daughter's dad) girlfriend is spreading rumors that my boyfriend slept with her uncle (my ex-husbands gay brother) my daughter is saying how nuts this is, and its untrue.
I'm going to pause right here and make a few comments. If #4 hadn't happened, I would find this unbelievable. My ex-brother-in-law is pretty crazy(like my ex-husband), and he always found my boyfriend insanely attractive. Mildly obsessive even. However he (ex brother in law) just won't drop it whatsoever. He says it 100% happened. He even now sends me really rude, abusive texts telling me how stupid I am, and I'm a pathetic bitch for staying with my boyfriend.
#6 March 2019 I get into my bf's Instagram and I see 4 or 5 searches On there for profiles of people I don't know. They are all young TIM's.
He tells me that it was an exercise is therapist made him do while on the phone with the therapist...To look up these types of "women" and see if it made him feel sexual. He said his therapist provided the profile names to search.
#7 I wait for him to fall asleep and I get a hold of his phone bill. I see July 2018 he called a tranny escort 10 times.
#8 I notice his best friend blocked me on all social media. His best friend lives 3000 miles away. I never see him, nor do I like or talk to him. My boyfriend said he told him to do it by telling him we broke up and he hated me, but really it was because he didn't want me to tell him about #4 or #5.
Now apart from all this crazy shit, I have other problems with him, like he is broke and can't pay his bills. The gravy train is ending for him in 2 months when my lease is up. I guess what I want to know though for closure is what is everyone make of this? He's gay right?!?
