I know many of the husbands get to a point where they say it is like she is a completely different person - the woman I married has gone away and a monster is in her place.  

So what are these men seeing to express it like that, and what makes this transition occur?  The answer I see is that the charm, the friendliness that we naturally believe indicates a reciprocity of the openhearted communication and emotional support we are offering,  means something very different to our partners - and what the husbands are seeing is the person underneath, who views being charming as a good way to get her own way.  Once the charm fails then she has to resort to other means to try and get what she wants and that is the transition.

Last edited by lily (August 14, 2019 7:43 pm)