yeah, I'm sorry Trance, to be initiating sex with you and at the same time to be telling her girlfriend how bored she is etc etc is a bit disturbing isn't it. 

Mine initiated in the early days but in mid life it stopped.  This is a common scenario - I think it's because of that instinctive wish to have children.  I was very relieved when it stopped, emotionally it had got to a point it was hurting me, I cried the last time and that became his excuse to stop altogether - it wasn't loving sex it was a performance for him and he had become tired of it.

There's been a few people who have been here and described partners who initiate sex a lot past mid life - but again, where's the affection - it's with both sexes and disregard for all.  

with so little sleep you are in serious need of it and will need to make getting a night's sleep a priority.  Can I suggest a visit to the doctor, it might help a lot.

all the best, Lily