I think everything they do is a slap in the face. Cold, without empathy or remorse.  Everything would make me shake with trauma.

I referred to it as "the discard". My GX would give excuses like she's allowed to go out. She knew perfectly well she was hurting me..and she didn't care.

Your best recourse is to detach. This is not of your making.  I begged for a while. Finally I was like "ok have fun..when can we expect you back" 

We can no more control what they do then we can stop a river from flowing..but we would not have built our house on a river if we knew it was there.

Maybe this is/was the acceptance people speak of.   They have every right to live their life.. And we have every right to live ours.

Only when I started taking steps to take care myself and the kids did I get some sense of control.
Some sense of my worth .

This is not us leaving them..this is them rejecting us.

Last edited by Rob (August 4, 2019 5:40 am)

I agree with Lynne.  It isn't simple, and it's abusive.  It's the latest example in a series of them that show that the most important thing in his life to him is himself and his desire to act out his desire to be a woman.  He knows you said you won't go out with him in public, so he's found someone else who will.  I don't think much of his co-worker, either, who is so eager to step in and be his gal pal.