jkpeace:
What is your husband's background, if you don't mind sharing? I mean, what was his family like when he was a child, or his religious upbringing if any, or his social circle? Do you or he know any gay people in your social circles?  It's interesting that he wants his therapist to tell him, almost like "diagnosing" him, because just letting himself be who he is, is too unacceptable. If that is so, then that's something he learned at an early age, is my guess. That really is sad and heartbreaking for both of you.

I wonder if he thinks it will be easier for him to explain, "My therapist tells me I'm gay, so I guess I am," as opposed to "I'm gay."  It sort of sounds as if he wants someone to be responsible for it, when nobody is responsible for it, it just is.

Last edited by BryonM (September 10, 2016 6:04 pm)

Very interesting article, John.  Thanks for posting it.  A lot of food for thought about our gay spouses here.

JK,

I think the immaturity you see now is that of a teenager with new found freedom.  Selfishness that may be ok for a teenager but not an older adult.  Ie.. staying out till 230 am,  speeding tickets etc..
I had several teenagers in the house..my kids and my new 16 year old ex..it sounds sick but I was sometimes fascinated watching her switch between being a mother and acting like a kid.  To this day it confuses the kids. Ie..  your  not allowed to stay out that late but I am.  No a normal parent of our age is not out drinking.
Yep her and her girlfriend. ..two middle-aged giddy teenagers..how they both didn't get a DWI is beyond me.  But they both thought they were wonderful mothers. 
Look out for your kids that's all I can advice folks here..our kids need at least one adult in there lives.