Omg!! I just read your post and I'm in exactly the same position!!!! Your not alone!!! I felt I was lone until I found your post 5mins ago. I found out 2 weeks ago!! I have gone from being literally crazy head to well not so crazy head but always feeling my life is just one big bull***t lie. I feel exactly the same as you. They get all this support yet were just collateral damage!! They knew, they had a choice not to deceive, lie and wreck our lives but they did. I have no kids. Pretty obvious to me why now. Not only did he rob me of love but of having family as well. But hey, "he can't help who he is". No, but he could of not fecked my life in the process. The fact he doesn't care is the hardest thing. Of course he doesn't though, he has no idea as he needs error loved me. I moved to NZ as he told me he was a ,essentially as he was so far from home. I'm scottish and met him in Scotland. Now I'm on the other side of the world with no family, friends and in marriage that suited him as he doesn't want anyone knowing he's gay.