OMOTF:
   That was brilliant!  You've been writing some posts that are so insightful that they keep taking the top of my head off!  I'm seven months out from divorce, 15 months out from moving out, 17 months out from living with him, and over two years out from knowing I had to divorce, and I thought I'd done some thinking about it, but you are teaching me more every time you write.  Thank you.