Shan & control, I am really sorry you have had to join this "club". I think I speak for all of us that none of us want to need this site, but I am glad to have the opportunity to vent whenever I need. This is not a fun roller coaster, but is survivable because we don't have to reinvent the wheel. Others have successfully manouvered the obstacles, which are so similar.
My GID told me quite tentatively that he "wanted to explore his homosexual feelings" 18 years ago. I think they all do that to give themselves the possibility of a return. And we have hope they will return.
My experiences have taught me to not trust or depend on him for anything. For a few years he included me in his employer's family benefit plan, because it didn't cost him anything.
Then, in 2016, he took me off: Revenue Canada did an "assessment" & now I have to pay +$3200 because psychotherapy is not an allowable medical expense. Without psychotherapy, I would not be able to work.… Do Not depend upon "generosity". This is a man whose income is in excess of $120,000, while mine is below $20,000 due to "fragile employment". It doesn't matter that I tended to our children while he advanced his career. And when the children were old enough for me to work on my career, he needed to "explore his homosexual feelings"!!! Sometimes I want to scream into his ears!!!
