OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Had a really good week!

**Posted by Count of Monte Cristo** April 28, 2018 2:53 pm

Hi all,

Just wanted to say after 6-7 months I had a really good week. A few hot sunny days, and on the road stocking lakes with fish (my job) and all seemed ok. Becoming at peace with the reality of my life. I have an older, yet attractive woman that is after me, but knows where I am at. I guess it is nice to feel desired. Biking, hiking, and hanging out with family has helped. Now it is time for house #1 to sell to help with some closure. I haven't seen the ex in months, but I realize it is time as there is no choice. The kids are doing well. Life is complicated, but I am trying to slow it down and appreciate the beauty of the Okanagan valley as it is considered the napa valley of the north. Time helps heal and without a doubt I am a changed man. Changed for the better. She can't and hasn't destroyed me. We will see what type of person she is as we divorce. It is all coming down to $. That is what she sees. It is as simple as life is going on. I was in a dark bad helpless place in 2017. Glad to climb out of that pit. Oh that sucked.

**Posted by greyhound gal** April 28, 2018 3:37 pm

Wow! What a long way you’ve come. Gives me hope that there are good things to come. Nice to have someone desiring you too- ooh er

**Posted by walkbymyself** April 28, 2018 5:42 pm

Gives me hope, too.

**Posted by Laurence** April 28, 2018 6:57 pm

Hi Count,

I’m glad things have improved for you. I felt it was like walking though a lot of trees and all of sudden you’re in a clearing and see a fantastic view. Knowing that someone wants to be with you is big boost. It’s a fantastic feeling and a relief to think, yes, I can handle this and coming out of this experience a better person.

**Posted by Kathyd** April 29, 2018 8:24 am

Hearing that you're doing well gives me hope too. There's nothing like being out on the water to give you some mental health & serenity! Wow, desired too? I can only imagine what that must be like lol. I think I remember it was like feeling young again. But, oh yeah, it wasn't real. My therapist said that I may have a fun summer ahead of me. I hope it's true for both of us.

**Posted by iamthelorax** April 29, 2018 8:42 am

Glad to hear you're becoming at peace with the situation. As for finding out what kind of person she is, my experience indicates you're going to get to know a bizarre person you thought was someone else.

**Posted by Lynne** April 29, 2018 10:45 am

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Last edited by Lynne (February 3, 2019 1:39 pm)

**Posted by lily** April 29, 2018 12:26 pm

good for you, Count. Hope the good days keep piling up. Hang tough on the dollars.