I recently found out that a man I was in a long term relationship with is gay. I ended the relationship because it was not working but did not know he was gay when I ended it. I moved on and started dating a new man and have been with him for some time. I am now anxious that the new man could be gay. He has a few close male friends and has gone to a gay bar with them before though this is not a regular thing. I've never seen any suspicious messages, porn, or dating app activity on his phone. The sex seems to be ok and much better than the sex in the previous relationship (with the confirmed gay man) but it definitely has dropped off the longer we have been together. I don't want to do anything sketchy like snoop on his phone or test him because I feel that trust is important. I am also so stressed out by the possibility that he could be gay. Is it a real possibility or am I just anxious because of my prior relationship? Is there any ethical way to determine whether my new partner is gay or not?
 

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