OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Accepting Straight Male That Enjoys Sex with Men

**Posted by UserNada** April 14, 2020 8:43 pm

My wife doesn't have a girlfriend, Lily. I think you may have me confused for someone else.

**Posted by Blue Bear** April 14, 2020 9:18 pm

Are you OK with infidelity?
Are you OK with knowing that your spouse is not 100% attracted to you the way you deserve?

Get to a lawyer, start unscrambling your life, and start moving toward the life you deserve. Because this isn’t it.

**Posted by HisBeard96** April 15, 2020 8:54 am

Ellexoh_nz wrote:
HisBeard96 wrote:
........Everything we have is tied in the businesses together.

Have you seen a lawyer yet? a counselor? Have you told many people about your situation?

Have not contacted a lawyer yet. Working towards a counselor but with social distancing, it is a factor right now. There is one close friend I have confided in who knows the whole situation. Another knows certain things, but not everything.

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** April 15, 2020 1:01 pm

HisBeard96 wrote:
.......Have not contacted a lawyer yet. Working towards a counselor but with social distancing, it is a factor right now. There is one close friend I have confided in who knows the whole situation. Another knows certain things, but not everything.

Secrets kill relationships. The more people I told...the more people I decided to trust...helped dilute the secret and made it a reason to want out rather than keeping me in the r'ship thinking I had to make it work. Finding a good counselor and telling her/him my story was the first move to untie the knots that had held me silent for so long thinking I was alone in this

**Posted by lily** April 15, 2020 2:07 pm

UserNada wrote:
My wife doesn't have a girlfriend, Lily. I think you may have me confused for someone else.

sorry Nada,

er, I haven't actually got you confused with someone else - when you first arrived you said you didn't want to disclose the details of how her bisexuality came up. then the next thing was that you had realised she was lying, again not wanting to disclose details and were going to spend a few days with your father.

so no I had remembered your posts and I should have been clear that I was using conjecture in referring to a girlfriend - it was just a guess but that is not clear, it doesn't sound like that in my post.

that is the way I meant it though. It isn't just the stories I read here, it is the people around me and it was my experience too.

so that's what's behind my guess. Not from anything you said.

Last edited by lily (April 15, 2020 2:09 pm)

**Posted by LostIdentity** July 12, 2020 8:03 am

HappyNow- what you wrote here, gave me so much validation and hope. That there is light at the end of this dark tunnel

**Posted by HappyNow** July 12, 2020 9:55 am

LostIdenity, I am glad. That’s why I write here and share! I believe many of us are in the same starting point when we are discovering our entire marriage was a lie. It’s devistating!
If you wanna speak privately, I’m happy to walk you through it.

**Posted by Jonathan** July 15, 2020 7:23 pm

I’m a straight man. Found this group Monday when my wife confessed to a lesbian attraction to a women at work. As a non confused straight man, not sure I could suck a dick with a gun to my head. I’m very new to all this, but offer my opinion as a straight man. Can’t see this getting anything but worse.

**Posted by HappyNow** July 15, 2020 8:36 pm

Jonathan,
Firstly I am so sorry to hear that you’re new on the club that none of us wanted to be in. AND as someone who is 7 years post discovery I promise you that there is a possibility of an amazing life after this discovery and after this marriage that you can’t even imagejne yet. 🙏 it will take time, but it’s possinble And there are many people here who have been through it, you are NOT alone and you don’t have to go through it alone.
Bless your heart. I’m so sorry you have to be here with us