OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Is he or is he not

**Posted by MrsLonely** August 31, 2016 8:29 am

Hi Guys

Thank you so much for your advise. I could not post here yesterday but Ive decided to take the advise and go to a lawyer first. I know it will get very ugly and he proved in the past to be a liar. Thats why I suggested therapy so that we can have an objective opinion and I will nit fall into a web of accusations and guilt. He still did not respond to that.

Financially I am the stronger one so I will be able to handle that part. It is my kids I am.most worried about.

Thanx again for the guidance. It is much appreciated.

Rgds

**Posted by Rob** August 31, 2016 12:18 pm

Lonely,

You go.. The order of your support does not matter.    If I had known my divorce would take so long and my ex would be so horrible and mean I would have done the lawyer first.

But there is no set time for these things.. Just be certain there is end ..it will be a season.   But God wants us to go through the (gay) valley..we can't seem to go around, over or under it.     I got through but I would never want to do it again (divorce a narcissitic gay person).

Our kids will be ok...we'll be ok...   but maybe not the same or what we expected.    Just keep being the mom your kids always knew....be consistent, stoic and absolute.    My horrible divorce year; I treated it/my ex like the rain...all I could do was hand my kids an umbrella and tell them to keep dry until it ended.