My GH and I went to counseling--a lot of counseling. Through our church, we found an excellent counselor who had worked with (I don't have the terminology down yet) mixed marriages. Gay/straight. You may need to try several to find a good one. My GH is terrified of coming out and is religious. He wanted to stay with me before I discovered his lies and had actually been attending counseling for 2 years and SA meetings.  I'm new to this site.