My (unconfirmed/in denial) gay EX says his affair w/a man (men, actually, but he's only admitted to one man so far) was experimentation (he was 55 at the time).  It's been since June that we split up and since August that he finally owned up to the affair.  He says his whole life he's snuggled w/gender roles, but says he's not gay. It's interesting, he's taking up new hobbies (juggling...?) and he's changing his looks a bit.  He shaved his goatee off after 20 years.  He will turn 60 next week so I'm wondering if it's a mix of things or if this might be something on his journey to becoming a new person?  Any experience w/the coming out process or thoughts? Thank you - it's a journey.  Therapy every single week since June.  The worst holiday season of my life.  Looking forward to brighter days. Eventually.