If I can just offer some advice. The one thing I always fail at is not having a solid hold on what I want and what I hope to accomplish. Every time I talk to my wife she always turns it around on me and I usually walk away feeling worse then when I started.
Take some time think about what is important to YOU. When you feel you have a firm grip on it. Then start the conversation. It's kind of like having the confidence of a great trial lawyer as soon as you start to crack it's over.
Remember we got your back. Good luck.