Sonata wrote:

After talking today, its seems my husband and I are at a deadlock.  He wishes that I could accept his bisexuality and occasional dalliance.  ...... I wonder, is it really that black and white?  Feels that way right now.....

 

Yes it is black and white. You either let him know you're okay with him sleeping with men you know nothing about, and possibly give you an STI (not saying he would, not saying he wouldn't, just that he could)
...or you say "no I'll never be comfortable knowing you're having sex with a man

See black and white.

Elle