He told me this four years before I found out he was having promiscuous gay sex. Is it a cause?  I did read a psych. Article that many kids abused by men in childhood grow up to be sex addicts or act in sexually prmiscuous ways. Did it make him gay?  What happens to a ten year old who is repeatedly assaulted my male adults?

Yes. Horriffic. I was honestly shocked when he told me and it felt like something of a betrayal for him not to tell me before we were married. I was really traumatized by the news. I was so angry at his abusers. It made me think it was the reason he became an addict and the reason he eventually developed ed problems. But it also gave me another secret to keep. Ugh. And he got very little therapy for it. One therapist told him to talk to me about it. The other told him to magically let it go. He never talks about it. I have been loving and supportive of him in every way I can think of. But I have also suffered from the effects of it. Since I learned TGT I have wondered if it is all really true because he has lied to me about so many things. I guess I do believe it. I feel empathy for him. But my life is also destroyed. And it's another thing I have to keep secret, right?  So now I've got all of this horrible horror show of secret burdens to carry around. My husband was sexually abused as a child (by men). He is an alcoholic who has supposedly tried to quit for at least sixteen years.  He has promiscuous gay sex. I can't believe I'm even posting this here but that is my current reality. Early on in his addiction treatment a therapist told him he has toxic shame. Now I have it, too. I am also curious how many gay spouses have a history or story of childhood sexual abuse.