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Saw this posted elsewhere and it is so applicable to many here. I hope it helps.
There are a few other good links on this site as well, well worth some browsing time.
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Its sad how I can read that identify even though its written from a female perspective.
For me it gets to the core of my problem with my ex; she said "i love you" and now she says it to her girlfriend...but based on what she did her words are completely worthless . Its a scary thing to me to interact with such a person where anything they say may not be true.. I am so glad to be away form that...
one cannot live with a person who's every word or motive cannot be trusted. I long to be with authentic people who's word is good . It is that lack of integrity that our spouses/ex-spouses can never get back..they can project it onto us saying we did this or that ..they can scream as loudly as they want..the reality is any word out of their mouth lacks integrity and trustworthiness now.
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That's a good link - many of us go through the "what if's?" and seem to need "permission" to leave or some sort of blazing neon sign.