I have been doing a lot of reading to understand the CD bombshell dropped on me recently by my SO. So many places on the Internet write that women get away with cross dressing all the time, and no one makes a big deal out of it.  I take exception to that.  Most women I know who wear pants/men's t-shirts, etc, as I often do, still present as female, both heterosexual women and lesbians, and they don't take on an alternate masculine name/persona for when they're wearing what could be traditionally men's clothes.  From what I understand, most men who don a kilt still use their given male name. Male and female judges wear robes, and in days gone by, wigs, but they didn't change their gender identity expression. MTF cross dressers however, apparently do most often adopt a female name for when they are in drag. They WANT to pass as female. BIG DIFFERENCE. Oh, I am so frustrated. Having two names, one male and one female for depending on what you're wearing, is a gender-bender, and a game-changer in what was once supposedly a heterosexual relationship. I am limiting this opinion to refer to CD ... not to drag queens/kings.  Just venting.