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When should you confront the GID spouse? See message, please.
I've been "gathering" leads and evidence. Seems once I was willing to allow the clues to enter my mind, they would not stop bombarding me. I cannot believe I was in denial for 12 years. We separated a month ago. Could anyone please tell me if I should let him know I'm very much onto his secret? We are facing divorce court if he won't settle. Thanks, y'all. Remember to do great things for yourself during this journey. P.S. My thinking is he may "settle" out of court, if I don't publically expose his secret in court.
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Re: When should you confront the GID spouse? See message, please.
Yes Piper - a lot of us found that useful. Just make sure you talk to enough people not to find yourself living in a world where he's not gay and you are the bitch that divorced him. good luck
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Re: When should you confront the GID spouse? See message, please.
Piper -
Where do you live? If it's in the U.S., and you're in a no-fault state, it won't matter if he's gay. It won't do a bit of good in court. Plus unless you have evidence that he's cheated, identifying him as gay won't be telling to anyone anyway.
You can try to let him know that you're onto him, but he will do one of several things:
1. Deny it
2. Admit to doing those things, but deny that it means he's gay
3. Get angry that his secret has been revealed, and get mean
The least likely scenario is that he'll be scared and more likely to agree to be reasonable.
Kel
You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.