Slightly different take:
Closeted cross-dressing autogynephile husband (man who gets sexually excited by the thought of himself as a woman), who lives by day as a man and comes home and puts on women's clothes.  
   When I said I found living in his closet stressful told me that my discomfort will be what that makes him come out of the closet.  As if he'll do it "for me."
  Of course this was after he said, "Is there anything I can do?"  (as if he isn't the SOURCE of my stress!)

Last edited by OutofHisCloset (February 23, 2017 9:47 pm)

Duped,

Stay strong, if you are lucky enough to have your own place then you have room to breath. Just keep posting and reading, we're here.

I heard many of the same things, yet, I got this...your my wife and your job is to take care of my home, my son, and my sexual needs when I desire them from you, not when you want them. In other words I was the maid, and child care giver and nothing more. It was hatefully said. When he said this to me it shot fire through my veins. This is what really got to me and when I decided to end my marriage. 

Last edited by Emerald (March 26, 2017 2:49 pm)

Iamthelorax, maybe I've lived under the assumption to long, but I've always understood that men are sexually active creatures...their desire for sex. So, If a man said this to me, knowing what I know now. I'd run and drop him so fast it would make his head spin. What a huge red flag. 

Have you causally mentioned to her that you come to this site and how it has helped you? Might help her as well see a pattern starting to develop.