I baked a divorce cake and shared it with friends who'd supported me through this. Lemon boxed cake mix; ready-made lemon frosting and a souvenir Statue of Liberty on top. I think the most expensive thing probably was shipping for the topper. When life gives you lemons make lemon cake.

One of my friends took photos and at Christmas I shared one as my significant event in the past year.

jkpeace, JenS, Abby and Sunflower:  If you can afford to do it, even a daytrip somewhere close to home either alone or with your kids (if you have them) is fantastic.  Check with your local library:  In Michigan, we have MAP (Michigan Activity Passes) which can be checked out and offer free admission to all sorts of wonderful attractions, museums, state parks, etc.  See if you have them where you live...a library is a fantastic source for free things you didn't even know existed!    Also, something about driving away from home always made things great for me (still does).  

 

I like Rob's idea.  Virtual raising of a glass, or lighting of a candle for those that don't drink.    March 21 it is!  

How about it being a salute to the past and a heads up to new beginnings jkpeace?!

That's only next week.....I'm waiting to hear my date too, I'd never thought of what to do or how to commemorate it, you've got me thinking now. I like the idea of a night for gathering all your sanity keepers around and saluting them and perhaps celebrating their super support.

I've started changing my name already, passport's back in maiden name, working on driving licence, bank accounts etc need to wait for divorce decree. I also got a new car, just Saturday, in my own maiden name too, my last two have been in my married name, for me I felt it was the car was the last "leftover" from the past.

I'll definitely raise a glass to you on 21st - totally unrelated - that date's World Down Syndrome Day - I have a magnificent little lady in my life who has Downs, please excuse my mention, the date just pops out at me!

I'll be interested in hearing how you're feeling in the lead up to such a significant step in your life - take care xx

Oh no JK, that's awful to hear he's becoming more unstable - I hope it's just a reaction to the divorce being final and things settle shortly!

I'm so sorry you find yourself in the middle of such craziness.

We're all asking ourselves how we married such narcissistic deluded men (& women).

My STBX obviously accidentally face timed me last night, it rang for awhile before I noticed (on silent) and it takes a while to connect so all this time my name appeared on his screen (computer, not phone so big enough not to  miss you'd think) when it connected and we saw each other I said "HI" and he hung up, no hi, sorry wrong number no nothing just plan and simple hung up. No follow up text apologising it was an error - this same fool still says to others that he hopes we'll be able to be friends some day (only after I'm able to accept more portion of blame for this happening though!!!!!!!!!!!) You're not alone in your never ending craziness.

I keep telling myself it could be worse - I could still be in the marriage being fooled and deceived and used - this HAS to be better than that! Peace to you JK!!