When we feel undervalued by others we can begin to undervalue ourselves. It's a byproduct of abuse. When you are constantly told you aren't good enough or made to feel that way it eventually sinks into our own psychology.

Many of us eventually have a revelation. The revelation that we ARE good enough and always have been. The revelation that the problem lay elsewhere.

I hope you can find a way to love yourself again Cat. Turn the negative thoughts around. Reject the rejection. Accept the love. One day at a time rebuild your sense of self and self-worth. You can do it!!!

oh Steve, what a lovely post.  very true and very good advice.  we've all had to do it, haven't we.

OMGOODNESS LOL
Some of these confessions have me laughing.
Good to have some fun and laugh!

I confess that the day I moved out, I found all of his "secret" weed he used to smoke to escape, and hid it in all other places.  I also replaced the scotch with olive oil.  
I still laugh thinking how hard he must have looked for things after I left, because it was always my fault when he couldn't find things in the house.  

Sorry, not sorry!  

I confess that I took pictures of all the nasty evidence I found, and the phone and text logs, condoms etc. and make a big collage on the wall for him to find. I was out of my head with rage and despair at the time, and I never raged at him, except for leaving his wall of shame. He took it down and never said a word about it, but he knew what I knew... and our marriage was done. Months later I found all those pictures in his car, and I secretly disposed of them. Kind of a sad testimony to our communication style.