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January 3, 2017 6:27 pm  #1


Breakups and Revenge

Revenge Your Ex

Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.

So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
nude photos of her and so on.

The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
better to show you are indifferent and don't care.

According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
or more successful.

I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.

I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
when you win without lowering yourself.

Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
getting over a past relationship.

Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:

Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.

Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.

Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
confidence.

Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
and help attract better quality women.

Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.

Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.

Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
depressed.

Don't binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
attracted to.

Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!

 

January 3, 2017 11:19 pm  #2


Re: Breakups and Revenge

Not a bad post really.

I've been struggling with depression.  I'm hoping this year to take small steps to.move forward. 

I spent all last year trying to get away from my gay ex.  Now that I'm away I'm a bit adrift.  So glad to be away but really just finding my way now.  I've not been on my own in decades..


"For we walk by faith, not by sight .."  2Corinthians 5:7
 

January 4, 2017 11:36 am  #3


Re: Breakups and Revenge

Meeting new men? dating? I don't think so, I need time to myself. I have been, his wife, their mom, the office manager for over 30 years. I think I will spend time deciding what I want for a change.
 


Go not quietly into that great, good night......Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
 

January 4, 2017 2:33 pm  #4


Re: Breakups and Revenge

I for one say that revenge means that he's still on my mind - and has power over a part of my life.  Walking away and cutting the cord as if nothing he did (except with regards to my kids) mattered anymore was vitally freeing.  I don't have time to worry about what the hell he thinks - it doesn't matter one iota to me.  He's a piece of sh*t - why do I want to try to impress him?  I only had time to worry about stabilizing my life and doing things that brought me joy and laughter.  Thinking about how to make him jealous wasn't one of them.

I DID manage to make him feel like shit, regardless.  My ex was 5'6".  My new husband is 6'4".  My ex has a menial job and a deplorable job history.  My current husband has had the same job for almost 25 years now.  My ex spends time with the kids, but he only does things that interest him - watching movies, going to the mall.  The kids are bored out of their ever-lovin' minds.  My new husband asks the kids to make out seasonal bucket lists and spends time fitting some of their things into our weekends with them.  I didn't need to find someone who made my ex jealous - I just wouldn't settle for anyone less than wonderful to me and my kids this time - not just to us - but as his base personality.  And despite being utterly jealous of my new husband, my ex actually can't dislike him.  He respects him.  He has nothing negative to say about how he treats our kids or stands by me through thick and thin.  A good man is hard to find, and even harder to insult.  Yes, living well (even if it's not monetarily) is the best "revenge".  But I maintain that if you're truly happy, you won't give a rat's ass about what your ex thinks of you.

Kel


You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.
 

January 5, 2017 8:00 am  #5


Re: Breakups and Revenge

Kel,

I am happy for you, I wish you peace and love. But JK, I am in the club with you.


Go not quietly into that great, good night......Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
 

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