This is my first post so I apologize in advance for the length of the message. My husband and I have been together for 12 years, married only a short time, and we have two young children together. There have been situations that have happened in the past where he felt a need to explore his feelings and had cheated on me once before with a man. We overcame that issue, went to therapy, and continued our relationship. After getting married, I felt as if the love was stronger, butterflies, and I felt extremely confident in our marriage. Just recently my husband told me he was having feelings coming back about being with a man, but he is unsure if he is gay. He has gone back and forth a lot with saying he is gay, or bisexual. In the past, he did admit to being bisexual, and I was totally ok with it and had open arms with no judgement. I honestly feel so lost and confused on what I should do, or what I think is right. I love him deeply and want the best for our marriage and most importantly our children. He tells me he is more gay than straight, but wants to be with me, works things out, he is only sexually attracted to me as a woman, and doesn't want anyone else. He wants to go to couples therapy to see what our options are and how we can make this work. I am extremely hurt and unsure where I should start. Do I stay and probably get hurt again? Do I leave now and start to heal? I go back and forth with wanting to work things out with him and then saying to myself I should leave because I don't want to go through the pain again. I just need advice or comfort knowing I am not the only one in this situation, I truly feel like my world has been shattered. I can honestly say I am in denial of this whole thing, I don't want either of us to live in regret and I surely don't want to be his cover or stop him from truly being who he is.