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    July 30, 2026 12:11 pm  #11

    OutofHisCloset
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    Re: Boyfriend came out as bi, wants semi open relationship

    His "proposal" sounds like an announcement, meaning not really subject to discussion, but to your accepting it.  I experienced something similar.   If you are not free to look for your own "extra" partner, then it isn't exactly an open relationship, is it, except on his side.  Last: he may say he started the meds (HIV prevention?) before he told you he wants to have sex with men, but can you be sure of that?

    You are in the unenviable position of figuring out what you will tolerate in order to keep this man in your life, just to keep this man in your life.  From what you've said, you really must be wondering if he's worth the angst. 

     

    July 31, 2026 1:45 am  #12

    Ellexoh_nz
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    Re: Boyfriend came out as bi, wants semi open relationship

    Princessj1 wrote:

    . ....he did say he would be ok if I was with a woman

    He appears to be just another entitled man who wants to eat the cake AND the icing. Being okay about you being with another woman but not a man? I remember that being a male fantasy my former partner would salivate over.

    You say you want to stay. Well okay...I hope you don't end up regretting not testing your own strength and self-esteem, finding a way forward and discovering your self-worth.
    I wish you well.

    Elle

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