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- lily
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my gay in denial ex said "I never asked to be born" - it was his excuse for treating me so poorly.
Fact is if you are born a crocodile you are going to eat bunny rabbits.
And he's right - he never asked to be born, he is what he is, he doesn't have any choice in that none of us have.
we are all inheritors of an ongoing circumstance.
I've always had gay friends. So you know, I really am up to date in gay ideologies - I've been listening to them for decades. And it doesn't matter if you refute the claim that they are superior to straights they believe this as a group, and reason doesn't hold sway. The theory is that because they know something of both sexes they know more about what it is to be human.
Interesting really, I don't think I know what it's like to be gay, I don't think I'm superior either.
I haven't the same depth of personal experience with transgender but it does seem they feel even more superior, even the really nice ones.
I have no real idea of what the lesbian ideologies are.
And though I am a straight I'm not sure I know much about what our group think is. I guess I view this forum a bit like a little grassy field where the bunnies can catch a bit of sunshine and grass.
We used to have a name though didn't we. The Straight Spouse Network. It mattered. I don't forget the feeling of distress, the uncertainty, the shock - is my husband lying to me? it was inconceivable until it wasn't. A helping hand means such a lot. I had one question - why does a straight woman marry a gay man. And this woman answered saying because she didn't know. It's just a little interaction but it made such a difference for me. Steadying. It set me up and I was able to face up to the reality of my life one day, one step at a time.
- Ellexoh_nz
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lily wrote:
And though I am a straight I'm not sure I know much about what our group think is. I guess I view this forum a bit like a little grassy field where the bunnies can catch a bit of sunshine and grass..
Lily the world has changed, become smaller and, because 'social media', it's become easier to see the flaws in the lives of those we come into contact with. I see....and this is my personal opinion....trans ideology piggy-backing on to the lgb movement and using it to garner support and enhance their progress. I see the ideology as the crocodile in the field, insisting it's a victim, and the bunnies sitting in a field of grass and sunshine, are totally unaware they're about to be eaten.
I'm not sure about group think either but I do know you can't be a victim and cancel & hurt people at the same time.
Elle
KIA KAHA
- lily
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I feel for you Elle, to have some of your family cutting you off because you don't go along with trans-ideologies must hurt an awful lot and certainly from our perspective you're quite right - how can you call victim at the same time.
I really hope they have a change of heart because of course there is love there in family that just doesn't go away.
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