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No contact after breakup?
Hi everyone- I (26F) have been with my partner (26M) for almost 10 years (we started dating in high school). When we were ~20 he came out to me as Bi, which i didn’t have a problem with. He came out to me last week as gay and said that we obviously needed to end our relationship. I would say that we were very happy and had very little problems our entire relationship, which is making this so much harder. I love him so much and want what’s best for both of us, but it still hurts that I want to be in a romantic relationship with him and he is not interested anymore. I know he still cares a lot about me, wants the best for me, and hopefully further down the line we want to be in each others lives.
He is moving out next week (still in the same city), but i really don’t know if we should be no contact. I know I need some space to get over him, but it hurts so badly thinking about losing him or not talking to him for an extended period of time. I also don’t know what he needs or wants after he moves out, as he is saying it’s up to me to decide. Has anyone had experience with this or suggestions?
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Hi, look my thoughts are that he's been honest with you, he cares about you and I think a friendship might be on the cards in the future, once you have healed from the current situation which brings it's own hurt doesn't it. It might be better to give yourself the space now, and also for him.
I have a close friend who is gay and he's been just gorgeous to have as a friend. We have never been romantic but it's more than that - he doesn't like being hugged by girls, no matter how platonic. Sometimes he likes being patted.
all the best, Lily
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Re: No contact after breakup?
fris12345 wrote:
. .... Has anyone had experience with this or suggestions?
Welcome to our forum Fris 
You will look back at your 26 year old self and hopefully see this part of your life as part of your growth and learning, about other people but especially yourself. If you have family or friends to discuss this with they will be a soft place to fall in the tougher moments when you're low in spirits...
Advice? Be kind to yourself, this will take a while to process. Some couples are able to remain friends. It's all about personality types right? our strengths and weaknesses.
Elle
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