I found this organization in 2005 when my husband of 16 years told me he was gay.  It's been 20 years.  Our children are grown and one is married, the other is engaged.  I remarried, and my former husband set us up! While it was difficult to navigate his coming out back then... and terminology and tolerance for all types of relationships have evolved, we found our way to a comfortable co-parenting and even loving relationship.  In 2020 he was diagnosed with ALS, Lou Gehrig's disease.  Our daughters and I were his caregivers until he passed in June 2022.  We were with him, comforting and guiding him in his final moments.  Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine our lives would have gone in this direction.  I miss him and visit his grave regularly.  He was an amazing father... a true girl dad!  He was an attentive husband, too.  If anyone had asked the day before he came out, I would have said we were happily married!  We didn't have texting, or as much technology in 2005 that is available now.  I had no clue... Over the years we reimagined our relationship as close and loving friends, and co-parents. We were still family! Anyway, I searched for SSN, and found this group, renamed to OurPath.  I want to offer hope to the newly informed spouses.  After the pain of discovery, there is hope for love and happiness in the future, although it's hard to imagine in those first months and years. If you have children, focus on them.  Take care of yourself.  Avoid villainizing your spouse.  Know that love can change and evolve and become something beautiful regardless.  God bless!