Last April I discovered by chance that my spouse of 8 years watches gay porn and after going through his email I found that he sent emails to people on Craigslist to meet then in 2018 and 2019 ,he also met and slept with someone before we got married and exposed me to syphilis when I was pregnant .I also found emails from him to a psychiatrist before marriage trying to covert him self to a straight man !

He claims that he never met anyone during marriage ...we had lots of disagreements,he claims to be religious and very much into his culture,his parents are very controlling and live next door to us while I drive 2 hours per day to work because they didn't like the town where I work so he decided to move all of us to where they like to live.

Fast forward I filed for divorce ,he signed giving me 75% custody of our kids, and I added in the settlement that he knows I will relocate for training .


Now I accepted a training position in another state and planning to move in the next couple of months.

I'm terrified he will try to prevent me from taking this job

He did that previously when we were married which resulted in me delaying my career dream for 5 years .

Now I'm struggling with a change in personal life a divorce, kids ,a change in career and location

I think I'm so scared occasionally I literally feel paralyzed while he goes to attend concerts .I have a psychiatrist but honestly i feel no one understands what I'm going through, especially when he starts mentioning that he purchased a gun and returned it.

I hope I can make this work

Last edited by Lostperson (April 20, 2025 6:12 am)