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- Sean01
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Re: A gay ex-husband answers your questions
PS holy f*ck this thread has 977,000+ views! That's astounding.
- lily
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Re: A gay ex-husband answers your questions
Sean, I think one of the big differences in MOMs is where there is a straight spouse involved, the dynamic is so different with an open vulnerable straight than when neither partner is straight and both of you are being deceptive.
There's that extra level of sociopathy with people like my ex - I'm pretty certain he liked taunting his boyfriends just as much as he liked taunting me.
oh yes to add isn't that a lot of reads I think it is testament to all the effort you have made to help us straights.
thanks, Sean.
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- gwendolyn_C
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Re: A gay ex-husband answers your questions
Yes - this is my ex-GID husband. He has never claimed to be gay, but he despised the word "DOWN LOW," but I was blind for YEARS. After all, he was really a "down low" guy! He spends ALL of his free time with gay men. He lost his marriage because of his "friendship" with gay men. He has still not come out of the closet due to religious reasons but he has admitted to me that he's bi-sexual. He wanted us to stay married and "let" me have a boyfriend. I had to decide to let go of trying to make him confess that he is really gay. I believe he will never come out of the closet. It's a sad way to live! Live your truth, and don't hurt anyone in the process! I'm glad I GOT OUT with the help of this group and Ryan! I am now in a happy and healthy relationship with a heterosexual man, and I was TRULY missing out!
- MrsSalt
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Hi everyone, I'm really glad I found this forum and you, Sean. I have a question, and I’d love to hear your perspective, as well as input from others. I won’t go into my full story here—I'll save that for another post.My question is: If a married man has been using gay dating apps for five years and admits to sleeping with four men but insists that he is not gay, what do you think? He says he didn’t enjoy those encounters, that he sometimes showed up for dates but left without doing anything, and his explanations are often vague.
To me, five years seems like a pattern—it's hard to believe that someone would repeatedly engage in something they don’t actually enjoy.Now, he is asking for forgiveness and promises never to do it again. If I were to even consider forgiving him (which feels extremely difficult), I need to understand—does this sound like deception to you? He has lied a lot in the past, so I don’t know what to believe.I’d really appreciate any honest thoughts or insights.