It's been a minute since I posted on here but I figured I would give everyone an update. My wife and I are still together and still going strong. She has all abandoned chasing other women and has been putting forth effort in trying to give me assurance that's she is committed to us.

I have been in therapy and it has been helping. If for no other reason than to give me an outlet for my feelings. Unfortunately that means we haven't talked about her infidelity or same sex attraction, so I haven't gotten any closure. My therapist recommended talking to her about it, but I feel like I will screw it up. The therapist has sent me some referrals for couples therapy, and after a couple weeks of going back and forth, I finally asked her if she is open to them. She has agreed, but thought that our marriage has been doing well (which on there surface has been) and didn't understand the need. I explained to her that I made mistakes in how I handled everything last year and I still need closure. She understood and was very gracious about it.

Sidenote as well, we have still been sexually active with each other and she has never withheld herself from me. More recently she initiated (a week before I even asked about couples therapy) and honestly I could have cried. She says she loves me and finds me attractive, but it was nice that she showed it in that way for once.

This is still a work in progress, but it seems like it is going to work out (hopefully). As of right now, I still don't trust her, but I never stopped loving her.