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- lily
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Re: I find myself here
To put an historical perspective on it - MOM's are certainly not a new thing, divorce is the relatively new thing.
Its just logical to recognise that for hundreds of years there have been people in MOMs, without the option of divorce.
It also seems for sure to me that finding a straight spouse has always been the preferred option for the non-straight spouse. From the look of it, where they're both non-straight finding out your spouse has been pretending sucks even though they're also doing it to them.
So there you are. I remember at one point, before it got to meltdown, well before I realised he was gay in denial, talking with a friend about my difficulties in the marriage and I ended up thinking that I am like a cushion to keep him comfortable and everybody wants me to stay where I am so they don't have to bother with him.
I lasted 37 years. Basically, it was more like an excruciation than a burden I could learn to handle more easily in time.
Last edited by lily (January 15, 2025 5:34 pm)