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1 of 1- Magnolia
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Scared of running into ex
Since the divorce was finalized a few years ago I've been no contact. I'm always a little scared of running into my trans ex-husband when I'm out in certain places. I know he will try to approach me and talk to me; he didn't want to divorce and is the type to always try to be the "nice guy". I suspect it really gets under his skin that I don't want anything to do with him.
I've already had a close call where I saw him obviously looking for me when we happened to be at the same place (I ran out before he saw me). The thought of him approaching me when I'm out with friends in my new life mortifies me. I don't tell many people about him as I just want to move on and not be associated with him.
Just venting, I suppose. Angry that this is still a consideration and that I can't trust him to take the hint after years of no contact.
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Re: Scared of running into ex
I have a similar feeling about my trans (closeted) ex. I am also no contact with him, and have been since 2019. I don't want to run into him. I doubt he would go out of his way to approach me, but just seeing him at a distance is enough to upset me, even though it's been seven years since I left him. We don't live in the same neighborhood (I moved out), but we do live only a couple of miles apart. I try to stay out of the area of town where he lives, but I do occasionally shop at the grocery store that is about a half mile from our, now his, house, and where I shopped for over twenty-five years when I lived there. I always scan the parking lot for his car, and, on the occasions when I have seen it, I turn right around and leave. A few times I have seen him on the road, driving, including once when I realized his car was just in front of me, and once when he was just behind me. (He works out in a gym near where I live.) It's always destabilizing for me.
It must be far worse for you, knowing your ex would like to force himself on you.