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1 of 1- seansayswords
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Why has she gotten more attractive?
I don’t know if it’s because, despite, or unrelated to my wife coming out as a lesbian, but I’ve found her increasingly more attractive over the past few weeks. It’s maddening to know how attractive I find her and also know I really can’t ever touch her in a romantic or intimate way again.
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Re: Why has she gotten more attractive?
You're going to want what you can't have. I suppose the trick is to realize what you can't have is toxic. I get it though, I feel like my soon to be exwife is burned into my mind and it's hard to look at other women in the same way I see my wife. Objectively she isn't anything special, but I still see her through the lens of my love for her and that makes her incredible attractive. I've been trying to focus on things I dislike about her appearance and personality while also reminding myself there is somebody else out there for me.
Last edited by Supernova (September 9, 2024 3:37 pm)
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Re: Why has she gotten more attractive?
Is she doing anything different, clothing, fitness, etc to attract women? It's a little different when she decides she's a "masc" or butch lesbian and starts bulking up and shaving (parts of) her head. It's quite the opposite effect.
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Re: Why has she gotten more attractive?
if she's more sparky she might be romantically interested in a woman.
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Re: Why has she gotten more attractive?
@seansaywords
This is normal. This happened to me as well when my wife first told me she was gay. I think it was coming from a place of desperation for me? It was something that faded after a couple weeks. I don't know if it's exactly that you want what you can't have, or something else explains it - but I did ask my therapist about it and they confirmed they've seen it before.