ok so to me her witchyness is more a fiscal worry than anything.  someone I know has burnt through all her money including her superannuation on a handicraft site - crystals, resin, bits of this bits of that.  and clothes of course.

Hi HHIHC, I was just addressing the idea of heaven and hell, saying I don't believe you need to fear she is demonic so much as you need to be concerned at how much money she is spending.

But here she is out again at a dance party.  omg, I feel for you, it sounds like she has checked out on her kids as well as her marriage.

Lily. 
I don't believe I have to fear anything demonic necessarily, though the bible does warn against witchcraft (sorcery/idolatry), whether that's demonic or simply being rebellion, either way, not great. Her spending has been as much as 20% of my monthly income with little to no warning, dinners out whenever with no concern. In fact, she just left again, she told me she forgot she'd RSVP'd to a birthday party in the city. We'll see where that happens to be.... Judging by the new text message numbers i'm seeing from last night, I think she's got better game than I ever did. 

Daryl, I don't know enough about Wicca to say for sure since I don't really know what other forms of witchcraft there are. I have learned not all consider themselves "pagan" as that references other deities, and many essentially only worship themselves as the highest being. I'm not 100% sure which way she goes on that, though she's used the phrase "everything you need is within you" a few times and I've seen that on some things she has.... AND I plan to being up when it comes time to discuss alimony... as I'd hate to offend her new belief system. Also REALLY annoying considering how much of my income she's used. 
Before me, She did date a wiccan guy while attending a conservative Christian college. Guess I should have taken that as a warning. 

I never wanted finance being a cause for divorce, but it'll definitely be a factor. I simply can't keep up with bills anymore, mostly because of how far behind she's put us. She totaled 2 cars, and had at least 2 fender benders in under 8 months. Our insurance hit as high as $650/month with our newest car being 8 years old. On top of that, she's put nearly 40k miles on her current car in about 18 months... so figure up the fuel costs, and she didn't even have a job until 2 months ago. That was just her out doing whatever she wanted.... Oh and taking the kids to school 2 days a week. Our credit is maxed out, our mortgage is late, but she's still having the time of her life. 

One of the things she said when I first confronted her about her books was that she did that to have some income in case my struggle with porn (currently in a recovery program) got us caught up in financial issues (never spent a dime on it) and she had to take the kids and leave.... 

Now I admit to my struggle and the pain it's caused her, I can't undo that, but inspite of that, i've busted my butt for nearly 2 decades trying to give her the best I could, only to have her constantly undermine my ability to do so... debt, spending, wrecks... even when we inherited money, she'd blow it on some sort of money making scheme that would never pan out instead of just putting it towards debt. 

Just being able to finally have a budget i can manage alone sounds like such a relief. 

We do have alimony here with a 1/3 payout period... so about 6 or 7 years depending on how they break that down. Lawyer said probably not as much with some evidence of cheating (which I've got some, and a pretty strong pile of circumstantial evidence) but hard to know exactly how that'll fall. 
That's another thing that's pissed me off. How much time she's spent writing those books, easily fulltime in some cases, to only make about $10k last year... of which only $7k or so was profit after expenses , editors, etc. And naturally she didn't withhold any for taxes, so it ate into my refund. 

I really don't like her car that much, we already had to replace the engine at 40somthing K miles (thankfully with warranty) so I don't want her to take my paid off 20 year old toyota. but she may have to  for the sake of whats affordable. We're upside down on hers... otherwise I'd get something newer.