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- walkbymyself
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Re: Advice on how to manage anger of betrayal
I don't have a particularly strong opinion either way about whether you should confront him. But, if that's what you decide to do -- or if you decide not to hide it from his family -- I would strongly suggest you avoid being drawn into explaining HOW you know what you know. It only invites gaslighting. He'll be challenging you on every word you respond. A simple "It doesn't matter how I know, the fact is I know." Otherwise you end up litigating what the meaning of "is" is.
Relinquere fraudator, vitam lucrari.
- Ellexoh_nz
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Re: Advice on how to manage anger of betrayal
karinaskanaflet wrote:
One thing I can't seem to shake - I worry that he will do this to another woman.
Save yourself. Be strong first. The choices of other adults are not your problem.
Elle
KIA KAHA
- lily
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Re: Advice on how to manage anger of betrayal
maybe you can get word through to a friend of the woman?
word of caution - you will come to see that there are a lot of MOMs, a lot of closet lesbians, at least as many as closeted gay men.