Thank you Kel

Thanks Kel your points are helpful..showing me I'm not ready.   I do enjoy talking to the opposite sex and just about anyone...so I'm not shy...the truth is just about everyone is nicer and kinder than my ex.   It really shows me how sadistic and crazy she was.
Right now I'm gathering the pieces of me and what strength I have left.   I'm essentially surviving..kind of adrift.

Kel wrote:

Signs your ready for something more serious with potential include: Kel

Taking the quiz:

1. Being "over" your ex. Not feeling like this might just come around still, and you'd jump at the chance.
This one is hard.  If the woman I married showed up I would jump at the chance.  But I've learned that she was a fraud.  The woman i'm divorcing is the real person and I don't love her.  In fact, based on her decisions and actions I don't even like her. 
2. No longer being proccupied with the break up. If you have nothing but that to talk about to a date, then you're going to be one hell of an annoying date!
I would probably struggle with this right now.  What I'm currently going through is my identity right now.  I'm sure I would talk about the pain and suffering that I've been dealing with, which would probably make me a poor date right now. 
3. No longer being angry or weepy on even a weekly basis. If you can't relay parts of your st8 spouse journey without falling apart, then you're no fun for someone else yet.
I'm getting better with this.  I don't cry every day.  I probably cry once a week now.  I can talk about it without getting super emotional. 
4. Not being jaded. If you unlike the opposite sex and generally mistrust them, you've got no business putting a member of the opposite sex through a hazing.
I imagine I'll have some trust issues, but I don't feel like I hate women.  I just hate what one of them did to me. 
5. A desire to date again. If you don't feel like you want to date, then don't force yourself for the sake of doing so.
I have a huge desire to date, but it's not for sex.  I would like to keep my "purity" and wait until marriage again if I can do that.  I just want to feel that spark, to have a companion, someone to cuddle with and spend time with.  I need to know someone cares about me. 
6. Some interests of your own. Go do things that interest you. If you're not interesting, you're not desired. Go do things that you love and just maybe you'll find a person on such outings that you'll have that in common with. If you're not willing or able to be alone, you'll be too clingy to be a good catch.
I have a lot of interests and I'm looking forward to my wife moving out and getting through this divorce so that I can have some time to start doing these things. 
7. The thought of finding someone fills you with excitement, not dread..
I'm very excited to find someone new.  I want that more than anything.  But I want to make sure I'm doing it for the right reasons. 
8. You're working on other areas of your life, too. Life doesn't start when you meet someone, or even when you fall in love. Enjoy life and work on you - the rest will come.
I'm still in purgatory with the divorce not yet final and her still living in the house, etc..   I think I will suffer from loneliness for a bit after she moves out, but I think I can start to enjoy life. 

This seems like a good check-list Kel.  I think the first two are a struggle for me right now, but in a few months after she is gone I think I'll be able to move past those issues.  They are still hard because the wounds are still so fresh and because I see her every day.  

I really want to be in love again.  I just need to make sure I'm in it for the right reasons.  I don't want to string someone along if I'm not ready and it's destined to fail.