OurPath Open Forum
This forum is for discussion of issues related to Mixed Orientation relationships only, that is when one partner is heterosexual (straight) and one is Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender or Questioning.
If this does not apply to your topic, please find another forum.
* Opinions posted here, including that of the Administrator, are the poster's own and do not necessarily reflect the views or policies of OurPath.
* As a peer-to-peer network, any advice given is that of a peer, based on personal experience, and should not be considered professional in nature.
* Any discussion of LGBT related issues is acceptable provided it remains constructive and respectful of other viewpoints. Hateful, degrading, or prejudiced speech and/or personal attacks will not be tolerated.
NOTE: Due to recurring spam abuse, you must register to post.
1 of 1- M-Kate
- Member
Offline
Is this normal?
It's been about 8 months since I found out that my husband is bisexual. He has promised to recommit to our marriage and be forthcoming going forward. We rarely talk about it anymore and our sex life if better and more honest. However, I still feel very uneasy, sometimes panicky and depressed. I wonder whether this is my new "normal".
- Rob
- Member
Offline
Re: Is this normal?
Yeah it normal for the horribleness of TGT... the anxiety and mistrust. Is e meeting a friend for beer or is it a date? Am I enough? ( It made me shake but my GX was actively cheating and did not want the marriage so I'm biased.) I dont't know if it can go away if your're with your spouse.
"For we walk by faith, not by sight .." 2Corinthians 5:7
- M-Kate
- Member
Offline
Re: Is this normal?
I think that some of my anxiety stems from the fact that I really just don't understand the practice of hooking up with a stranger for sex. I've read many books and listened to multiple podcasts and it seems that this is what many bi and gay married men do routinely (without any guilt or remorse). I can't imagine ever wanting to hook up with a stranger. I don't get it.
- •
Thread Starter- Ellexoh_nz
- Member
Offline
Re: Is this normal?
M-Kate wrote:
.... He has promised to recommit to our marriage and be forthcoming going forward. We rarely talk about it anymore and our sex life if better and more honest. However, I still feel very uneasy, sometimes panicky and depressed. I wonder whether this is my new "normal".
A man can't be "more forthcoming" and at the same time "rarely talk" about the thing he's being more forthcoming about.
The great sex you're having sounds like a good ploy to make you think everything is okay but M-kate the unease and panic you're experiencing is what you should take note of and remember because of course your husband wants you to think everything is okay.
As a woman your spidey senses know when something is not right. The great sex is trying to shame your intuition into thinking everything's okay and that you're wrong. Bisexual men (I know) are good at that.
Keep on listening to your inner voice. Honestly? it's not fair that you think this is your new normal. Walking on eggshells is not normal. Feeling depressed while having good sex isn't normal.
Don't allow him to convince you it is.
Elle
KIA KAHA