I am 59 and have been dealing with this for years. Tried counseling and couples therapy over the years. My husband finally acknowledged he “might be bi” about 6 years ago but was desperate to stay married. He is terrified of his father or our children knowing. I feel like such a fool. I have loved him for 25+ years. I have always been faithful and saw him through cancer and amputation of his leg as a result. Now I just found out that nothing has changed except he doesn’t have any interest in sex with women. Yet he says he loves me but I feel I have gotten to the point where I can not live his lie or be his cover anymore. This is agony!!!!  his ex wife tried to warn me. I should have listened. Now we are expecting our 2nd grandchild and I am so exhausted trying to balance all the lies.  I am done. I got to the point of being suicidal about 4 years ago and went into therapy, through it all he insisted he is not gay.  We have not had sex in years. He is unable to have sex with me because I am female. He spends HOURS a day surfing porn and scheduling hook ups with men. I had a great career but quit my job about 5 years ago to provide care for our first grandchild. Now my 401k is gone and it feels like I am stuck. Defeated and heartbroken and feeling so very stupid.